It’s Not All His Fault

If your one of those women walking around whining about being single, maybe you should stop pointing your finger at the man, and take a look inside yourself. Maybe it’s at least partially you’re fault that you’re single.

So whether you’re single, or you’re dating someone that you think “is the one”, but he seems reluctant it doesn’t matter. Either way you could be at least partially to blame for your lack of a wedding band.

Now I’m not saying it is your fault, or that it is even entirely you’re fault, because I don’t know you. I’m just saying there are a few things you should consider before you go dumping all the blame on the men.

Sure it’s easy to blame men for your single status. But I think that’s a bit of a double to standard. I know how easy it is walk around and complain about the lack of decent guys, when it seems like you’re surrounded by dirt bags. But that is neither right nor fair. However, I will not go into that here. If you want to read more of my thoughts on that check out my article, Not Every Man Is Anti-Woman.

Before we delve into some of the reasons why it might be your fault that you’re single, let’s look at some of the causes of this mentality. One of the major contributing factors to this “anti-male” mentality is Hollywood. If you’ve ever watched shows like Everybody Loves Raymond,” sure those shows are funny, but they generally make dad out to be a dofus, who screws everything up, and then Mom comes into save him. Even some of the older television shows such as “Father Knows Best” or “Leave It to Beaver” portray men in this demeaning fashion.

While Hollywood is a major contributor to the emasculating of men, often women themselves are the very source of their emasculation. So it’s ironic that women walk around complaining about the lack of “real men” when women themselves are often the cause of it whether we realize it or not.

According to a report from Fox News:

Men know there’s a good chance they’ll lose their friends, their respect, their space, their sex life, their money and — if it all goes wrong — their family,” says Helen Smith, Ph.D., author of “Men on Strike.” “They don’t want to enter into a legal contract with someone who could effectively take half their savings, pension and property when the honeymoon period is over. Men aren’t wimping out by staying unmarried or being commitment phobes. They’re being smart.

Unlike women, men lose all power after they say “I do.” Their masculinity dies, too.

What’s left of it, that is. In the span of just a few decades, America has demoted men from respected providers and protectors of the family to superfluous buffoons.

You can’t expect a guy to marry you if you’re going to stop respecting him, and start treating him like an idiot, they day after the honeymoon when you go back to real life and stressful jobs. In addition, you can’t expect him to think otherwise when that is what he sees on TV and in the majority of marriages around him. No wonder the divorce rate is 50%! Think about, if you were man, think like a man for a few minutes (it’s really not that hard, and no think is not a reference to the Kevin Hart movie) I doubt you would do any differently.

Secondly, men have an innate instinct to take care of women, all women, but especially those to whom they feel responsible, sisters, mothers, wives, daughters etc. Yet liberal feminism is telling them, “I can take care of myself, thank you very much!”

As Fox reports:

If women no longer expect or even want men to “take care of” them — since women can do everything men can do and better, thank you very much, feminism — perhaps the flipside is the assumption that women don’t need to take care of husbands, either. And if no one’s taking care of anyone, why the hell marry?

In addition to all the reasons he shouldn’t get married, he has no incentive to why he should get married. If you’re giving him exactly what he wants now, why would he marry you when the odds are against him? I don’t think I need to spell this out, but just in case you don’t know what I’m getting at. Let me spell it out for you, sex. If he’s getting what he wants now and he gets to keep his masculinity too, then he has no reason to marry you and risky losing everything. So if you do any or all of these things, then it’s likely at least partially you’re fault that you are single.

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