Make sure you’re feeling completely supported.
Regardless of whether there’s any penetration going on, anything Milky Peru anal requires lots of trust and relaxation, safety, and comfort. If you start down the anal path tense, you’re going to have a bad—or at least not as good—time. Take a few moments to relax and get in the right headspace. And if you find the idea is too stressful or uncomfy, you can absolutely say no to anal play at any point in time.
Establish a safe word or two before you dive in.
A series of safe words can include: A word that means “Yes, I love it”, A word that means “Slow down” or caution, A word that indicates ”Stay in connection and talk to me” And a word for a hard stop.
Sometimes people try to have sex through anal sex, instead of speaking up, because they don’t want to ruin the moment for the other partner or they don’t know how to formulate their needs and sometimes even override their body’s resistance, potentially adding more discomfort to the experience. Having preset safe words will make you and your partner feel supported and safer to explore.
Remember to breathe.
This can’t be emphasized enough. When we are tense, contracting our muscles, or disconnected from our experience, we are blocking our pathways to pleasure. If you relax and breathe, you’ll likely be able to feel a more pleasurable sensation making you enjoy Milky Peru anal play.
Ask for permission and be respectful of your partner’s body.
Let them know what you are doing and ask for their permission to do so. This means both *before* you do something and *as* you’re doing it. It might take a bit longer, but it’s well worth it as it establishes trust, safety, and connection for both to have an enjoyable experience. Plus, active consent is sexy, so ask away!
Have the receiver guide the penetration.
While you might think the receiver takes a more passive role, have them guide the penetration to their satisfaction. This can feel empowering as they get to control the speed, depth, and angle of penetration in allowing their body to feel good.
Pick up a silicone-based lube.
Silicone-based lube lasts longer compared to water-based lubes. Plus, you’ll need less of it. Just keep in mind that not all silicone lubes are safe with silicone toys (some are and some aren’t, so there’s no flat rule for this unforth). Your best bet is to Google the toy you’re working with to see if it’s silicone before squirting some lube on.
