Make sure you feel okay with having virtual sex.
Before embarking on your virtual sex adventure, you should feel comfortable having these kinds of interactions with the person (or people) in question during the phone sex lines. Asking yourself a few key questions before giving virtual intimacy a try is key:
- How much do I trust this partner?
- Where has this relationship been before this time of separation?
- Has this partner ever betrayed my trust?
- How much risk am I willing to tolerate to pursue this?
If you have a partner who has made you uncomfortable in the past, this is not someone who will respect your boundaries now. Whoever you’re having virtual sex with needs to stick to every boundary you put in place to keep yourself safe. That should be non-negotiable.
While thinking about what feels most comfortable to you, remember that there are countless options for how to have sex at a distance. Yes, you can customize a photo shoot or record video content for a more modern, personalized experience. But you can also write letters to one another that include explicit details (so vintage!) or opt to text for written gratification that’s more immediate. You could also go retro and stick with phone sex linesthat only involves your voices. The point is, if you don’t feel comfortable with certain types of virtual sex for any reason, that doesn’t mean you have to completely abstain from all sexual interaction right now. Instead, it’s about figuring out what works best for everyone involved.
Art direct your experience.
A $15 desk lamp pointed from behind the camera can act as your spotlight. You can also stack your computer on an old hamper to achieve the views you want for a phone sex linesvideo. Use props and makeshift scaffolding at your discretion to play with angles and scenes that make you feel proud, sexy, and powerful—or stick with simpler framing to create a more natural interaction. Wear what makes you feel confident, whether it’s a baggy tee, lingerie, or nothing at all. Personally, clothes don’t really affect my perception of myself. Instead, I feel good when I lock eyes with the camera, bite my lip, and get flirty. Trying different positions on camera introduced me to new sides of myself, and now I feel more confident in person too. You and your partner can even swap control over how the other displays themselves as long as everyone consents.
From a safety perspective, make sure there’s nothing in the background that could give away your location, like a street sign you can see through a window. Even if you totally trust the person you’re sending this content to, knowing your photos or videos don’t include hints about where you are can give you some peace of mind if someone did manage to hack your content. One easy way to do this is to opt for lighting that showcases what you want to focus on and let the rest fade into darkness.
